Is DAD the Ideal Postpartum Doula?

Is DAD the Ideal Postpartum Doula? 

 Is DAD the Ideal Doula? as published on The Birthing Site

by Allie Chee, with comments from Darren Mattock, Darla Burns, Elly Taylor, and Dr. Ning X. Fu, O.M.D., Ph.D

Postpartum care around the world has well elaborated traditions that support healing, bonding, and growth for the new family. They are respected and received by families in all financial strata. These traditions are considered essential not only to the mother’s immediate recovery, they’re believed to benefit her subsequent pregnancies, menopause, and golden years.

The postpartum time for women in the US historically involved at least periods of bed-rest, during which an experienced woman—usually one or several family members—supported the new family.

However, the concept of postpartum care for the family is currently the subject of debate in the United States where

YONI BLISS: Postpartum Care for Our Most Delicate & Tough Body Part

 Postpartum Care for Our Most   

 Delicate & Tough Body Part!

 

Our bodies were made to give birth. It’s natural, it’s miraculous, and when we allow it to…it just happens.

But that doesn’t mean that we emerge from the experience unscathed.  Let’s face it—though breastfeeding and childbirth are the major role of our nipples and yoni[1]—those delicate parts (and others) take a bit of a beating in childbirth and the early days postpartum!

Prenatal Glucose Test: Is it Necessary?

Do I need to take the glucose tolerance test?

•50 grams of glucose •tap water •artificial flavor

 

 That's not what you'd expect to find on a “recommended” list for pregnant mothers, but those are the ingredients of the drink a pregnant woman must consume if she follows doctors orders for glucose tolerance screening.

Women who are discerning with the things they consume during pregnancy--or at any time in their life--are not likely going to drink the glucose test beverage without, at least, asking: “Is this really necessary?”

When pregnant,

The Secret to Calm & Confidence in Childbirth

 

The Secret to 

CALM & CONFIDENCE  in Childbirth

With Excerpts from New Mother

 

Throughout my thirties I watched not one or two, but almost all my friends enthusiastically enter the hospital in labor, having claimed for nine months that they would have a natural birth. Yet they came out two (or ten) days later having been induced, forced to labor on their back, drugged, cut, and observed by countless strangers. Their babies had been taken from them immediately after birth and they were having problems nursing.

I wondered what had gone on behind the doors of the L&D that all of them were checking out with dramatically altered birth stories.

In my third trimester I attended an all-day birthing class at a store for new moms and babies. The women in attendance were from around the world, highly educated in their fields of work, and well to do with all conveniences of life available to them.

And yet... here are some things I heard during class:

AFTER MISCARRIAGE

 

AFTER MISCARRIAGE

Postpartum Care for Mothers Experiencing Loss

By Allie Chee

People in the US are rediscovering the mind/body benefits of a 30-40 day postpartum recovery period for new moms during which they rest, are cared for, eat special foods for rejuvenation, and are supported by family and postpartum care providers. This, of course, leaves mom better able to care for and bond with her new baby, and to return to her old strength, if not even an increased vitality—quickly!

In China the term for this time is called “sitting moon” (zuo yuezi in Mandarin—one month being “one moon”), but cultures throughout Central Asia, Southeast Asia, and the Far East have similar practices, each with their own special techniques and care providers. This postpartum care is not considered something only for

NO FEAR of BREECH - The New Mother Cover Story

NO FEAR of BREECH

 The New Mother book cover is based on the image of a woman approximately 32 weeks pregnant—me. When working on design ideas for the cover, the production team asked me to send a photo of myself pregnant, and that ended up being the inspiration for the cover.

But that’s not where the inspiration stopped.  In other words, it’s not a literal image.

New Mother Cover Design

We don’t see an umbilical cord; there’s no placenta in sight; and the baby, rather than in the ideal position for birth, is “cradled” in the mother’s arm and looking straight at the reader—smiling!

If the baby had been presented exactly as she was positioned at the time, she would have been head-down, nestled in the pelvic girdle, and the reader would have a lovely view of her back and bum, or maybe her curled legs and feet. That could be important for a medical journal, but the artist had an intention with her cover design.  She wanted the baby to interact with the reader—to say: I’m a participant, aware and involved.

I loved the idea and the image, and the idea that the baby was “breech” never crossed my mind.  After a reader contacted me saying

Avoiding Exposure to Violence While Pregnant

For a healthy, happy baby

take... a love bath?

•A Texas Twist on an

Ancient Chinese Precept•

 Of all the unusual things I learned from Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and Ayurveda about conception and pregnancy, this one caught people’s attention most. Probably because it was the one thing they’d never heard of...and because the effect on the baby is so profound.

A Midwife, Doula, and Postpartum Help for Healthier, Happier Mom, Dad & Baby

Who uses a doula, midwife, and postpartum help?

Barefoot hippies? Hollywood divas?

Yes, and millions of everyday, hardworking people around the world who have decided either through their cultural heritage or personal research that for them, a natural childbirth and postpartum care with the support of a midwife, doula, and other services makes for the healthiest, safest, and happiest ways to give birth to and care for the new spirit in their lives.

Natural childbirth in a hospital, home birth, and postpartum care have become so uncommon in the US (and increasingly in other countries) that they are now considered by many to be too difficult, unnecessary, or even frivolous.

But, just a glance at the number of women in the US who fail to have a natural childbirth (when that’s what they intended), fail to breastfeed (even when they wanted to and tried), and who suffer from

Baby Sign Language is Cool! Easy, Fun Communication with Your Infant Using ASL

After good morning hugs & tickles...signing time!

BABY SIGN IS COOL!

Easy, Fun Communication With Your Infant Using ASL

Several years ago I was friends with a deaf[*] woman and was always intrigued when watching her sign with her baby.

When pregnant I heard about the trend of parents who weren’t deaf teaching their babies ASL (American Sign Language) or a modified “baby sign” as a way to create clear, two-way communication before a baby was able to speak. I knew that parents and babies had many ways to communicate and express without needing to use sign, but again I was intrigued.

I read several books and websites to learn more. Many teachers and authors encouraged parents to begin signing with their children between 6-8 months, and advised that though babies would be learning—they’d usually remain unable to sign back until 9 months, 12 months, or older.

Encouraging parents to sign with their children at any age seemed beneficial and fun, but the information I found was a little different from what I’d observed with my friend and discovered in the deaf community (and what with a little contemplation makes sense):  deaf parents use sign to communicate with their newborns from day one. Just like newborns learning to speak from day one with their parents, babies can learn sign from day one!

CANCER, CIRCUMCISION & C-SECTION...What Will People Say?

 DARK AGE II: REPORT ON THE RITUALS & BEHAVIORS OF ANCIENT TRIBES LIVING IN NORTH AMERICA FROM 1950-2050.

  

“The philosophies of one age have become the absurdities of the next.”

-Sir William Osler

It is now the year 3013, and in this report we will discuss briefly three rituals and behaviors of the tribes of people living in North America: the tribe of the United States collectively called “Americans,” and the tribe of Canada collectively called “Canadians”—during an era now called “Dark Age II”—1,000 years ago in the period between 1950-2050.  As we’ll see in this report, Dark Age II was marked by extraordinary aberrations of nature and a reign of fear, exemplified in these three rituals/behaviors:

CONCEIVING AFTER MISCARRIAGE: When to Try Again & Increasing Ability to Carry Full Term

CONCEIVING

AFTER  MISCARRIAGE

In Part 1 of this article, AFTER MISCARRIAGE: Postpartum Care for Mothers Experiencing Loss, we discussed the care a woman should receive in the first several weeks after a preterm loss (or stillbirth) to help her through the grieving process, to assure her return to vitality, and—according to the precepts of Traditional Chinese Medicine—to increase her chance of a successful pregnancy the next time she conceives.

Here in Part 2, we’ll address the question: When should we try to conceive again? It would be nice if there were one, but the answer is that there is no one answer.  Conceiving life is a sacred event, and there is no single fact or consideration that can offer a single best answer for everyone.

However, since there are biological and emotional ramifications of pregnancy and loss, there are factors we should consider when deciding when it’s best to try to conceive again.

The western medical industry essentially considers one factor when making recommendations: What is the statistical likelihood of carrying the next pregnancy full-term when conception happened x amount of time after a miscarriage?” 

That is indeed the ultimate question in any woman’s mind. However, the western medical industry offers studies with tremendously conflicting results to answer that question.

For example,

Natural Childbirth Exercies - Review

 

Natural Childbirth Exercises

If we want any performance or undertaking to turn out the way we envision, training and study are a must—even with natural childbirth. 

The good news is: the more we study and train, the more we can release concerns, look forward with joy, and entrust the outcome to the Divine!

With that in mind, check out this fantastic book by Rhondda Hartman, mother to 5, grandmother to 9, & trainer to 14,000+ pregnant women…

FREE LOVE: Every Ideas for Joyful Living

 

Release Date: September 21, 2012

In my book, New Mother, I discuss how profit-driven institutions have eliminated all that was natural, loving and sacred in pregnancy and childbirth--and what we can do to reclaim the magic in motherhood. 

In FREE LOVE, we pick up where New Mother left off. The same institutions have invaded our kitchen, family life, and communities.  We've allowed it--but once again--at any income level, with any amount of free time, and starting right now, we can reclaim the magic in our homes and communities.  
 

Available Sept 21, 2012

FREE LOVE: RATED G!

We Can Have Exactly What We REALLY Want—Right Now

In 1993, Allie Chee—planning to move to Calcutta—had a one-hour phone call with Mother Teresa that set her off on a different journey—one that led to dozens of countries, great adventure, and unexpected lessons on free love.  In communities around the globe—rich and poor, peaceful and war-torn—she learned that we don't need more time, we don't need more money, we don't need special skills, and we don't need to give up anything we enjoy or desire. We can experience more fun, more joy, more LOVE—we can get our groove back right now—with the simplest of activities in our kitchen, at home, and in our communities.  

The everyday ideas for joyful living that Allie shares in FREE LOVE are waiting for you. So what are you waiting for?

Get your groove on and start spreading the love!

 
                         ALLIE CHEE has studied Asian martial and healing arts since 1989, earning a 2nd degree black belt and certification in TCM nutrition; she is a 42-year old home birth mom; and author of NEW MOTHER: Using a Doula, Midwife, Postpartum Doula, Maid, Cook, or Nanny to Support Healing, Bonding and Growth; and FREE LOVE: Everyday Ideas for Joyful Living.

                          Her articles have appeared in The Well Being Journal, The Holistic Networker, The Birthing Site, and MidwiferyToday.  

                         Website: www.alliechee.com  Facebook: www.facebook.com/AllieChee 

WHERE SHOULD MY BABY SLEEP?

WHERE SHOULD MY BABY SLEEP?

Co-sleeping, nursing, and weaning à la Good Nights

New parents have a lot of questions. Some of the most basic are the most controversial:

• For how many months (or years) should I nurse my baby?
• When should I wean my baby and how?
• Where should my baby sleep?

Response to: Maternity Leave? It's More Like A Pause, NY Times article

Not a single mother interviewed in this article from the New York Times: Maternity Leave? It's More Like a Pause" was from the "natural birth" or "sitting moon" (40-day postpartum healing and bonding time) end of the spectrum.

They interviewed only women who took just a few days or weeks off and continued working.  And loved it. This is exactly the kind of social influence from leaders, Hollywood, and commercial interests that I discuss in my book, New Mother.

The message in the article is loud and clear: American women, forget about taking care of yourselves and bonding with your children.  Work trumps all.

We give birth, if we're blessed, perhaps only once in our lives.  Our babies are only babies for one year. And ever-increasingly, our society refers to this sacred event and magical time as something to be tended to briefly, and gotten over with as painlessly as possible, in exchange for further financial gain and ladder-climbing.

Quoted in the article is Jane M. Swift, who was a month into her term as acting governor of

When people ask new moms...

How Can You Stand Staying At Home?

I’m often asked that question.  It implies that staying home, raising our children, is less desirable, fun or respectable than working in an office.

Personally, I can’t imagine any joy greater than staying home with my baby, cooking for her and my family all day, and being her best friend and teacher.  That’s not what we’re all called to do, nor what we’d want at every phase of life. Maybe that’s why some women feel it’s less desirable than working in an office.

To be fair, I understand what is driving the question...

BOOK REVIEW: Is Your Hair Made of Donuts? by Joy Feldman

UPDATE 2/18/13:  Joy Feldman is doing a statewide tour in R.I., reading in over 200 schools and libraries. City mayors, local celebrities and the governor are participating and will be doing readings in an act of solidarity for children's health.  More info on Facebook and in the Rhode Island Monthly

Best wishes to you, Joy, and to all those lives you will touch with your goodness!


As published in The HolisticNetworker: http://www.HolisticNetworker.com/5063/childrens-nutrition-is-your-hair-made-of-donuts/

Joy Feldman, author

Whether the subject is religion, education, politics, or even eating -- when you swim against the current, you’d better be strong, confident, and resilient.  Parents who work to feed their children nutritious foods know this well.

The Sea Change

Around the world and throughout time, the choice of what to eat has been made by adults combining the foods harvested in the region, along with an understanding of what food combinations best served the health needs of the people in that area and created pleasant tastes.  Children were not consulted in this matter, as of course, they would not yet know what is best for their bodies.  Rather, they were given to eat what the adults ate—the adults knowing what was best and taking the time to prepare it. 

Joyful Cooking

It is always a delight to discover a cookbook that speaks to the pleasure of cooking for health--and not just to indulging the eyes and tongue!  It's even better still when the author specifically addresses children's health and ways for parents to improve the food on offer at home.

Joyful Cooking by Joy Feldman is my latest discovery. Though my focus is usually on TCM and Ayurveda, occasionally a Western approach to nutrition is so compelling in its wisdom or simplicity that I veer in that direction. As my first beloved TCM doctor and teacher, Dr. Henry Woo, said, "East plus West is best".

Swimming in the Bliss of Natural Childbirth

Swimming in the Bliss of Natural Birth

Choosing home birth as a 

first-time 42-year old mother

I’d always imagined a natural birth.  In  our 20’s my cousin, Christina, and I would joke and laugh about squatting in the shade of a tree to have our babies--and we were just joking...but not completely.

Through my 30’s I watched not one or two, but almost all my friends enthusiastically enter the hospital in labor, having claimed for nine months that they would have a natural birth, and saw them come out 2-10 days later having been induced, forced to labor on their back, drugged, cut, observed by countless strangers, having had their babies taken from them immediately after birth, having nursing problems, and having been given food I would call toxic.

If you’d asked them ahead of time if that would have been their story,  Read Full Article Published in Holistic Networker

ALLIE CHEE has studied Asian martial and healing arts since 1989, earning a 2nd degree black belt and certification in TCM nutrition; she is a 42-year old home birth mom; and author of NEW MOTHER: Using a Doula, Midwife, Postpartum Doula, Maid, Cook, or Nanny to Support Healing, Bonding and Growth; and FREE LOVE: Everyday Ideas for Joyful Living.

Her articles have appeared in The Well Being Journal, The Holistic Networker, The Birthing Site, and MidwiferyToday.  

Website: www.alliechee.com  Facebook: www.facebook.com/AllieChee 

SITTING MOON: Book review + Author interview

Sitting Moon: A Guide to Natural Rejuvenation After Pregnancy

How does a woman quickly and safely rejuvenate after childbirth, provide well  for her baby, get back to her old energy level, and back into her old jeans? Have a sitting moon!

Sitting Moon?

In use for thousands of years, the Chinese calendar is a lunisolar calendar, indicating the phase of the moon. According to Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), to rejuvenate after childbirth a woman should rest for approximately one month, or one “moon”. Thus we have the title of the new book from Dr. Daoshing Ni and Jessica Chen about natural postpartum rejuvenation, Sitting Moon.
In a country where woman are often back on their feet and running soon after giving birth, one month’s rest may sound shocking, but this practice