tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699441845578298484.post2110566863433083371..comments2022-04-01T15:14:32.809-07:00Comments on NEW MOTHER, by Allie Chee: When people ask new moms...Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699441845578298484.post-87112145666134390592012-07-18T18:17:46.845-07:002012-07-18T18:17:46.845-07:00Thank you for your comment.
Indeed! I understand ...Thank you for your comment.<br /><br />Indeed! I understand your situation well, as my mother raised my sister and me alone, without financial support, and without support from extended family, from the time we were 2-years and 2-months old respectively. An incredible task, and a great joy for her, too.<br /><br />I admire my mother's resilience and strength as your daughter admires yours!<br /><br />It seems that we all get the family and story that we need for our journey here : )<br /><br />XO,<br /><br />AllieAllie Cheehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938874595021172587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699441845578298484.post-40204713025104669822012-07-18T17:47:27.925-07:002012-07-18T17:47:27.925-07:00"That’s not what we’re all called to do, nor ..."That’s not what we’re all called to do, nor what we’d want at every phase of life." I totally agree with this and I try not to judge anyone's choices about whether they stay home with their children or work outside the home. In my 20s I thought I would marry someone who could afford to financially support our family while I raised the children. However, being divorced with an 18-month-old required me to earn my own money and support my family of two. <br /><br />It's not always as simple as choosing to stay home with your baby. I love my daughter with my whole heart, and I worried that she and I both suffered from our circumstances of me working when she was so young. Then again, as she has grown older, I truly believe that she sees me as strong and independent and self-sufficient, and I don't think there is anything wrong with that model, either. Now that I am re-married and have emotional (and financial) support, I continue to work because I really love my job and I am proud to contribute to the economic side of our household. My husband and I have a partnership - in building our home, and in raising a little girl into a young woman. We both participate equally in all aspects, and it turns out that - despite what I thought when I was 22 and single - THIS is what feels right to me as a mother. <br /><br />I applaud women who stay home with their babies, but I also salute the moms who work. Everyone brings something to the table, and each mother is an important facet of our society.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699441845578298484.post-63472550442774678912012-07-12T15:54:04.120-07:002012-07-12T15:54:04.120-07:00I couldn't agree more! Staying at home is the ...I couldn't agree more! Staying at home is the most rewarding job I could ever ask for. Nobody can love your child like you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08836087995373659918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699441845578298484.post-11889845828161874962012-07-10T09:33:01.623-07:002012-07-10T09:33:01.623-07:00I come across that comment from time to time and m...I come across that comment from time to time and my response is always "Just because I don't have a career doesn't mean I *stay* at home. Much of what I do everyday is outside of the home. How can you stand sitting in an office all day?" :)JuliPicklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10588542589439811480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699441845578298484.post-20314000277463310852012-07-10T09:29:22.312-07:002012-07-10T09:29:22.312-07:00TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't wait t...TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't wait to be stay at home Mom with my kids... especially for the 1st 3 to 5 years.Adriennenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699441845578298484.post-67021553318030235462012-07-10T08:37:15.255-07:002012-07-10T08:37:15.255-07:00Hello Allie.
Like you, I knew one day that I woul...Hello Allie.<br /><br />Like you, I knew one day that I would marry and have the awesome privilege of rearing children. My ideals for how I would rear them was intense. I acquiesced that this maturity level required would take some time to gain. Meanwhile, I wanted an illustrious career filled with travel, income, awards, etc. This was a message ingrained in me by the feminist movement in the 1970's to today. Then (during my formative years in the 70's and 80's), motherhood or being a stay-at-home mom was seen as a concept that one was not smart enough to be anything else. Logically, this negative stigma has forced millions of American women to apply a distaste to this identification. However, I have found that it takes an unimaginable sense of wisdom, knowledge, discernment, courage, craftiness, a daily renewed sense of hope, entertaining and educational savant to take on this role. Most people spend more time researching how to buy a vacuum cleaner than do rearing children. Our country is in the slums of education for being a world power. Our attention has been directed off successfully rearing well-educated, respectful, successful, joyful children and has turned its attention to self-fulfillment and immediate self-gratification of material things which do not leave a lasting legacy for generations to come. Our industrialized nation is suffering because we have not highly educated our women and are leading them off into a dangerous abyss. Alongside this, I have to say that our men need to place the woman in a higher position of respect and affection. When women are not cared for at home, they will have a greater tendency to leave the home and search for work that fills their deepest needs;or that their significant other is in need of financial assistance requiring her to leave the nest and abandon the great needs of their home and children. Ladies, can we have it all? The answer is yes, but not all at once.<br /><br />Respectfully,<br />Christina J.Christina J.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699441845578298484.post-85896955423388630672012-07-10T08:18:06.380-07:002012-07-10T08:18:06.380-07:00Thank God as a dad I have a super interesting job,...Thank God as a dad I have a super interesting job, otherwise I'd be really bummed leaving home every day.<br /><br />It's hard enough to be away even with a great job.Leo M.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4699441845578298484.post-61516505753770507972012-07-09T21:57:02.436-07:002012-07-09T21:57:02.436-07:00if young mother's knew how quickly this specia...if young mother's knew how quickly this special time of little miracles becomes the past they would be sad to leave the home.Susannoreply@blogger.com